Strange…


It’s around 2:00 AM (IST). I cannot sleep. There’s a tornado of thoughts messing up everything in my head. What am I thinking of? I don’t know. I don’t understand. It’s like my own life looking at me right now and saying, “It has just begun, my son!” It’s not like I don’t know the reason behind it. I may not know what’s happening but I know why this is happening. The days are not how they used to be. Now I have a job. And sometimes, I may have to change my preferences completely. And there comes this fear – will this eventually come to a stage when I just keep postponing them(everything that I have dreamed of) everyday? And I have no answer. Or am I taking things too seriously? Will it really come that far? Or am I too lazy to do them right now? I don’t know. I tend to laugh at myself when I have “I don’t know” as the only answer for every question I ask to myself! Even now, while writing this post, I’m wondering how many “I don’t know”s  I can find in this page, once I complete writing it.

Before I say anything else, let me just apologize if I’m going off-topic. I just want to put into words everything I’m feeling right now. All these days, I just kept giving suggestions, tips or whatever you call them. Those were the days when I had nothing to do but just learn things and attend exams. But now, this is the time when I have to learn to stand on my own feet. This is where I see the best of the life, and also the worst. If you have noticed, it has been so so long since I’ve posted my last article, and I’m writing this after months. There are also several other pending drafts which I don’t even remember what I was thinking when I wrote them, and now they just remain. This is how a typical student-to-employee transition would be, or at least in my case.

And because of this long break in my writing, there were days when I felt like it’s over. There were days when I said, “I’m done!” I almost gave up. I stopped writing. But there’s something in me that didn’t stop. And then, I don’t know why or how, but I started drawing some random things on a paper just like a kid. I didn’t know what I was doing. But I just started. Because when my mouth can’t speak, my pen speaks no matter how. And because…

Because you know what? When you have something built inside you, something that’s not just your hobby, but something that makes your personality and if you know what it is, then you just won’t give up. There may be a break. There may be hurdles. There may be days when you said it’s all over and you feel like you’re done. My friend! Listen! Somewhere in your personality, in some corner, it is still alive. All you have to do is just starting. Start it just like a baby trying to walk. Trust me, this time you’ll start running faster than before. Believe it. Receive it. It’s all in the faith. All that matters is what you are believing in.

And now I can have a good sleep. Thank you for reading folks! I thought of sharing my feelings with you but see, this passion and love to write came back to life. As I said, just because I started. And I can already see that this post is more powerful then every other post I’ve written in this blog. Tell me why? Just because I’ve started. This is not a story that’s made up. This is my very experience, my thoughts put down on my screen as they come, just like a live feed. But you’ll have to read it in the future. Well, This ending was completely unexpected and fortunately, I hope this can help you somehow. Keep smiling.

This post looks very small and brief but I’m encouraged with my own words so I just want this to be a happy ending! And I hope it helped you too!

P.S. Feedback/Suggestions appreciated, please go ahead and add a comment and let me know how you felt 🙂

AFTER GRADUATION


If you’ve completed your graduation and looking forward to do something, you’ve come to the right place. Choosing the next step can be hard in few cases, especially when you did not have a proper plan. But hey! It’s never too late. Times are changing and you’ve got a lifetime to achieve things, so here are few suggestions.

Get Guidance from the Right Person

There are so many places/people you can visit to get a career guidance. Before going to anyone of them, just keep this thing in your mind. Everyone you consult is just going to give their opinion and it may not work all the time.

Quick Tip: Do not seek guidance from those who grew up easily. It’s better to get guidance from people who faced a lot of challenges in their career life.

Small Post in a Big Company or Big Post in a Small Company

As a fresher, these are the only choices you have as far as I know. Consider this example before making any choice. The world looks at what you know but not where you got it from. I have seen people who tried for jobs in large companies, no matter what the post is. They say, “They pay me well.” But if you just work for salaries, trust me, you’re not going to love your job for long time. Even if you take that as work experience, everyone offers you a job in the same level.

On the other hand, if you go to a higher post, no matter how small the company is, the work experience can help you in getting jobs at the same level in bigger companies. This way, you can do what you love, eventually in your dream company.

Do What You Love

This is the decision where you’ll know if you’re going to love your job. You may ask what’s the big deal with loving one’s job. I have a simple answer for this. If you love your job, even if it is stressful, you don’t feel the stress. And if you don’t love what you do, you are prone to losing interest in doing repeated work all the time, which will either make you compromise or make you hate the job.

If you are working but actually do not like what you do, that obviously means you’re working for money.(My opinion. No offence.) Working for higher salaries when you are not “connected” to the work you do, will cost you stress and strain, your personal life, and much more. But if you do what you love, even if you’re not paid so well, you will not be so worried because you’re happy with your job and the salary won’t bother you at all. You will be happy with what you have.

Overcoming Pornography


Is Watching Porn That Harmful?

The excitement that we feel while watching porn is due to the chemicals that are produced in your brain when you watch it. The brain gets used to it and wants more and more of it, finally leading to addiction. This eventually leads to a situation where you are no more satisfied with your spouse/better half. In case if you are not yet in any relation, there are chances that when someone comes into your life, you will not be satisfied with them. You will be thirsty for more and more. And these may lead to extra-marital affairs and such.

The symptoms also include:

  • Cannot enjoy sexual life with your spouse.
  • Can make you more lazy.
  • Cannot concentrate on your studies/work.
  • You’ll get irritated easily.
  • You’ll lose interest on people around you, making yourself wanna be lonely most of the time.
  • Stress and strain are increased.
  • You may lose friends and family.
  • Emotional imbalance. (No one can expect your mood at any moment)
  • Broken marriages/relations.
  • Depression

Little Bit of Porn is Not Harmful. Really?

People say that watching few clips of porn now and then is not that harmful. They say that it makes you feel relaxed. But this is where you are deceived. It may look like it’s good for the moment, but the effects come eventually. It’s just like people saying “smoking makes me relax(emotional/mental)” but they do not know that the same smoking is damaging their liver(physical). In case of porn, it seems like giving rest to you emotionally and physically, the thing which is facing the negative side of it is your spirit. This makes a spiritual damage. What goes, you ask? The faith, dedication, and everything that makes a man achieve things comes from the spirit. Even your uniqueness is known to you only when this spirit works. You may feel like nothing is happening. But things that are not seen are facing the negative consequences. Little bit of porn, can make the your spirit idle. And that is why your faith, honesty, love, determination, dedication and such things die, leading to the symptoms mentioned above.

How to Overcome?

Well, no matter what the problem is, there will be a solution somewhere. It all lies in the faith that you can achieve it. Remember, even this “faith” comes from the spirit. Here are some tips that you can follow to give a temporary solution to the problem:

  • Spend time with family and friends.
  • Go our for a walk / walk the dog.
  • Read books. (Good books)
  • Sleep early and wake up early. (Trust me)
  • Keep doing something you love. (Other than watching porn, though)
  • Make researches
  • Keep your mind filled with something or the other all the time. (except porn)

These can give you a temporary solution to the problem. i.e., once you start ignoring them, the problem comes back again. But, there is also a permanent solution for this. Go ahead and click this link for the permanent solution to this problem:
overcoming porn and sexual addictions

Keep Smiling,
Bhanu Prakash

THE ORIGINAL SIDE OF ME


I don’t know why I’m even writing this. It’s been months since I really put my heart on writing. When I’ve started this blog, I thought that my passion of writing has taken me to a new level. Everything was good in the beginning, but as days passed, the determination went down. I wanted my articles to be helpful. I wanted my articles to be interesting. And last but not the least, I wanted my articles to have content. I don’t know about other writers in the world, because as far as I believe, the articles people write come from their own experiences. My life is different. Yeah, you may say that everyone’s life is different from others but, what I meant is that even when people have their own, different lives, they’ll have things in common. And this applies to me very rarely. In fact, it was the choice I made. I chose not to live like everyone. In everything my fellow people do, I wanted to be different.

Yes, being different is not a gift, it’s a choice. I enjoyed this difference in the beginning but as time passed, I started to realize. People like to talk to people like them, they don’t like to mingle with other kind of people. Or at least, they won’t be so close to them. This made me far from many people, or at least it made me feel I don’t belong there. When you want to prove your uniqueness, you need to be different. And when you want to be different, you lose somethings. This is life, or at least, my life. We all know that even if many differences persist, we are all the same. But that feeling inside, will not let you accept it.

I write things for students. I suggest, I warn, I teach, but sometimes I can’t follow what I say. And then I’ll ask to myself, “It’s you who wrote them, and you can’t follow them?” That question is not wrong. All the posts below this one in the blog are written by me, and I read them now and then because even I need some inspiration at times. Almost a year ago, I wrote an article on overcoming stage fear, but even now I cannot speak in front of five people, standing before them. And I thought that my post on overcoming stage fear did not work and wanted to remove it off the blog, but a friend said that the same post helped him give his first seminar in the college. So, what does it prove? I write, but I cannot receive it. It’s like a movie making. A director does not feel the story because he already knows that the people are ACTING in the movie. The writer knows the content and the concept of the article. So he doesn’t care. And that is why my own posts bring no effect on me. I’ve learnt this.

I said that I’ve got a feeling that I don’t belong to the others. That made me an insecure person. I cannot express things as they are when I talk to people. I cannot ask. I cannot even ask permissions. I don’t know what runs in your mind when I say this but, I was unable to ask permission to write an exam in the college, and lost my percentage by half. My friends just went, they asked, they wrote. And it was too late by the time I got my guts to ask. This is because of the environment I lived in. This is because the choices I have made. And I have learnt this in my life: For every choice you make, you need to pay something.

I know that my college mates and school mates are going to read this before the world reads. I just have one thing to say to you guys: You may be thinking that there’s no point in writing all these things to the world. But I wrote this just because I wanted to share. I can’t speak, so I write.

THINGS ARE ABOUT TO CHANGE A BIT


Inspiring speeches, uplifting thoughts from others, suggestions, warnings, cautions, do this, do that, don’t do this, don’t do that… I am now fed up of these things. I have realized that things are easy to say, but it does never feel the same when we do them. It is easy to say, “I love you.” But showing that same love in action is not as easy as saying. I know it because I have experienced it. Not in the case of love though, but I’m talking about the difference between saying and doing.

Long ago in this blog, I have posted an article on ‘Overcoming Stage Fright‘, it had a very good response, and a friend said it helped him a lot and he was able to give his seminar in the college very effectively. But you know what? I am the one who posted it, it’s been months, even now I have the stage fright. I’m not posting the link of that article just because I’m not proud of it. And that’s what I mean when I say, “Saying is easy” Now I have decided to DO them and they say. Saying is not those do’s and dont’s, but I’ll just say what happened and what I have done to face it, and that’s all.

‘Cause ain’t no body wanna hear those do’s and dont’s. So I don’t wanna say ’em. Things are gonna change a bit folks!

THIS IS WHY MOST OF THE STUDENTS DONT STEP AHEAD


In the last article I said that students got used to former definitions and rules and are unable to think about the logic and meaning behind every definition. Even if they get the meaning behind it, and redefined the terms which make perfect sense, they don’t put that out. I confess that I cant put that out too. Not in speech, but I write about it. I love writing, and I don’t speak much.

ARE STUDENTS REALLY ACTIVE TODAY?

You may think that most of the students are so dynamic and like an open book, who express every idea they’ve got in mind. This is because only those students came into your notice. But there are many students who don’t express their ideas even if those ideas make a lot of sense. Such students have many questions in their mind. What if I cannot explain in properly? What if I cannot prove it is right? What if… and so on. All these questions come from only one thing, that is fear. They are afraid of facing the circumstances. Even if there is no meaning of being afraid, they are afraid. Every new step someone takes is a combination of excitement, fear and curiosity. Even if it is safe, they are afraid.

YOU CANNOT OVERCOME UNTIL YOU FACE IT

I just want to confess one thing. I was not able to express my ideas too. As I said earlier, I write every article out of my own experience. This fear was my experience too. Even today I cannot speak out about my ideas and thoughts. So I chose to write. I didn’t write about it all these days because I was sorting things out. I tried to know the exact reason of this feeling. Finally here I am, with an answer. This was because you were afraid of the consequences. But let me tell you, almost every new thing that came into existence came out of someone’s risk. There is no better example than this: Jesus Christ who is now able to take away the sin of the world had to hang on the cross 2014 years ago. He faced the risk to bring the freedom. All that I wanna say is that you need to face the fear of risk to overcome the risk.

WE ARE NOT MACHINES. WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS.


What would you answer if I asked you what you’ve done until today right from the moment you took birth, or at least from the moment you started thinking? Do you have an answer? If it is, are you sure you’re satisfied with what you’ve done? If you asked me what I’ve done in my life, I’d say that I discovered myself and helping others to discover themselves so that they may also help others, this chain shall continue. That is actually my concept of opening this blog.

YOU NEED TO KNOW YOUR VALUE

First of all I would like to tell you what a robot does. It receives the information or instruction EXACTLY as the operator gives it, and works according to the commands given by operator. It does nothing more that what the programmer coded it to do. Now coming to yourself. This is especially people who read things by heart and write them in the examination, and finally forget what they’ve written. Did you know what you just did? You took the information as given in the book, and just applied copy-paste method. Even machines do that, much accurate than yours. Now let me ask you, What have you done so far in your academics, in your student life, that machines can’t do? Don’t include emotional things here, I’m asking about your studies.

I HATE DEFINITIONS. AND IT HELPED ME.

Let me give you an example. Long ago, when I first heard the definition of computer, the teacher said, “Computer is an electronic device which is capable of receiving information in a particular form and of performing a sequence of operations in accordance with a predetermined but variable set of procedural instructions (program) to produce a result in the form of information or signals.” You want me to tell the truth? I hate this definition but I love computer. So I redefined the computer as I understood. “Computer is an electronic machine which is built by human to provide assistance in faster and accurate calculations.” That’s it! The definition is over. It’s mechanism and working procedure comes in the explanation. And this change of definition brought out hidden talents out of me.This redefinition let me think, “Why cant I program softwares that solve my own problems?” And finally that brought interest on programming languages and I’ve started coding my own programs.

STUDENTS HAVE GONE POWERLESS

I think you have already heard that students can easily change the world. But let me tell you, you cannot do that. Yes, you cannot do that until you change yourself. I’m writing this with a pain in my heart. This is our generation. I don’t want to let us go meaningless. I want you to think. I want you to understand what you are reading. I want you to bring new things out that no one has ever noticed. Let me tell you the truth. I love the students but really hate it when they perform this copy and paste process. And this is only possible when you start thinking about what you read.