Strange…

It’s around 2:00 AM (IST). I cannot sleep. There’s a tornado of thoughts messing up everything in my head. What am I thinking of? I don’t know. I don’t understand. It’s like my own life looking at me right now and saying, “It has just begun, my son!” It’s not like I don’t know the reason behind it. I may not know what’s happening but I know why this is happening. The days are not how they used to be. Now I have a job. And sometimes, I may have to change my preferences completely. And there comes this fear – will this eventually come to a stage when I just keep postponing them(everything that I have dreamed of) everyday? And I have no answer. Or am I taking things too seriously? Will it really come that far? Or am I too lazy to do them right now? I don’t know. I tend to laugh at myself when I have “I don’t know” as the only answer for every question I ask to myself! Even now, while writing this post, I’m wondering how many “I don’t know”s  I can find in this page, once I complete writing it.

Before I say anything else, let me just apologize if I’m going off-topic. I just want to put into words everything I’m feeling right now. All these days, I just kept giving suggestions, tips or whatever you call them. Those were the days when I had nothing to do but just learn things and attend exams. But now, this is the time when I have to learn to stand on my own feet. This is where I see the best of the life, and also the worst. If you have noticed, it has been so so long since I’ve posted my last article, and I’m writing this after months. There are also several other pending drafts which I don’t even remember what I was thinking when I wrote them, and now they just remain. This is how a typical student-to-employee transition would be, or at least in my case.

And because of this long break in my writing, there were days when I felt like it’s over. There were days when I said, “I’m done!” I almost gave up. I stopped writing. But there’s something in me that didn’t stop. And then, I don’t know why or how, but I started drawing some random things on a paper just like a kid. I didn’t know what I was doing. But I just started. Because when my mouth can’t speak, my pen speaks no matter how. And because…

Because you know what? When you have something built inside you, something that’s not just your hobby, but something that makes your personality and if you know what it is, then you just won’t give up. There may be a break. There may be hurdles. There may be days when you said it’s all over and you feel like you’re done. My friend! Listen! Somewhere in your personality, in some corner, it is still alive. All you have to do is just starting. Start it just like a baby trying to walk. Trust me, this time you’ll start running faster than before. Believe it. Receive it. It’s all in the faith. All that matters is what you are believing in.

And now I can have a good sleep. Thank you for reading folks! I thought of sharing my feelings with you but see, this passion and love to write came back to life. As I said, just because I started. And I can already see that this post is more powerful then every other post I’ve written in this blog. Tell me why? Just because I’ve started. This is not a story that’s made up. This is my very experience, my thoughts put down on my screen as they come, just like a live feed. But you’ll have to read it in the future. Well, This ending was completely unexpected and fortunately, I hope this can help you somehow. Keep smiling.

This post looks very small and brief but I’m encouraged with my own words so I just want this to be a happy ending! And I hope it helped you too!

P.S. Feedback/Suggestions appreciated, please go ahead and add a comment and let me know how you felt 🙂

AFTER GRADUATION

If you’ve completed your graduation and looking forward to do something, you’ve come to the right place. Choosing the next step can be hard in few cases, especially when you did not have a proper plan. But hey! It’s never too late. Times are changing and you’ve got a lifetime to achieve things, so here are few suggestions.

Get Guidance from the Right Person

There are so many places/people you can visit to get a career guidance. Before going to anyone of them, just keep this thing in your mind. Everyone you consult is just going to give their opinion and it may not work all the time.

Quick Tip: Do not seek guidance from those who grew up easily. It’s better to get guidance from people who faced a lot of challenges in their career life.

Small Post in a Big Company or Big Post in a Small Company

As a fresher, these are the only choices you have as far as I know. Consider this example before making any choice. The world looks at what you know but not where you got it from. I have seen people who tried for jobs in large companies, no matter what the post is. They say, “They pay me well.” But if you just work for salaries, trust me, you’re not going to love your job for long time. Even if you take that as work experience, everyone offers you a job in the same level.

On the other hand, if you go to a higher post, no matter how small the company is, the work experience can help you in getting jobs at the same level in bigger companies. This way, you can do what you love, eventually in your dream company.

Do What You Love

This is the decision where you’ll know if you’re going to love your job. You may ask what’s the big deal with loving one’s job. I have a simple answer for this. If you love your job, even if it is stressful, you don’t feel the stress. And if you don’t love what you do, you are prone to losing interest in doing repeated work all the time, which will either make you compromise or make you hate the job.

If you are working but actually do not like what you do, that obviously means you’re working for money.(My opinion. No offence.) Working for higher salaries when you are not “connected” to the work you do, will cost you stress and strain, your personal life, and much more. But if you do what you love, even if you’re not paid so well, you will not be so worried because you’re happy with your job and the salary won’t bother you at all. You will be happy with what you have.

Overcoming Pornography

Is Watching Porn That Harmful?

The excitement that we feel while watching porn is due to the chemicals that are produced in your brain when you watch it. The brain gets used to it and wants more and more of it, finally leading to addiction. This eventually leads to a situation where you are no more satisfied with your spouse/better half. In case if you are not yet in any relation, there are chances that when someone comes into your life, you will not be satisfied with them. You will be thirsty for more and more. And these may lead to extra-marital affairs and such.

The symptoms also include:

• Cannot enjoy sexual life with your spouse.
• Can make you more lazy.
• Cannot concentrate on your studies/work.
• You’ll get irritated easily.
• You’ll lose interest on people around you, making yourself wanna be lonely most of the time.
• Stress and strain are increased.
• You may lose friends and family.
• Emotional imbalance. (No one can expect your mood at any moment)
• Broken marriages/relations.
• Depression

Little Bit of Porn is Not Harmful. Really?

People say that watching few clips of porn now and then is not that harmful. They say that it makes you feel relaxed. But this is where you are deceived. It may look like it’s good for the moment, but the effects come eventually. It’s just like people saying “smoking makes me relax(emotional/mental)” but they do not know that the same smoking is damaging their liver(physical). In case of porn, it seems like giving rest to you emotionally and physically, the thing which is facing the negative side of it is your spirit. This makes a spiritual damage. What goes, you ask? The faith, dedication, and everything that makes a man achieve things comes from the spirit. Even your uniqueness is known to you only when this spirit works. You may feel like nothing is happening. But things that are not seen are facing the negative consequences. Little bit of porn, can make the your spirit idle. And that is why your faith, honesty, love, determination, dedication and such things die, leading to the symptoms mentioned above.

How to Overcome?

Well, no matter what the problem is, there will be a solution somewhere. It all lies in the faith that you can achieve it. Remember, even this “faith” comes from the spirit. Here are some tips that you can follow to give a temporary solution to the problem:

• Spend time with family and friends.
• Go our for a walk / walk the dog.
• Read books. (Good books)
• Sleep early and wake up early. (Trust me)
• Keep doing something you love. (Other than watching porn, though)
• Make researches
• Keep your mind filled with something or the other all the time. (except porn)

These can give you a temporary solution to the problem. i.e., once you start ignoring them, the problem comes back again. But, there is also a permanent solution for this. Go ahead and click this link for the permanent solution to this problem:
overcoming porn and sexual addictions

Keep Smiling,
Bhanu Prakash